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Love your Mom, before it's too late





This hit me so hard.


Naalala ko lang ang phrase na 'to earlier when I saw an old woman being scolded by her daughter (siguro anak niya kasi tawag sa kaniya ay "my" short for mommy). Reason behind? Well, dahil lang sa hindi napansin ng matanda na mahaba ang pila sa tricycle. Yes, noone should be blamed in that situation since it's uncontrollable, but the daughter made her mom feel like it was all her fault.


I saw the sadness in the eyes of her mom. I felt how ashamed she was because a lot of people heard how she was being treated by her own daughter. At hindi ko kasalanan na marinig din yun. See how our reaction toward a situation can hurt the person that we love the most? Kahit minsan hindi natin ginustong gawin ang isang bagay, siguro dapat we are mindful about our reactions. Lalo kapag nasa stressful situation tayo.


I remembered what my mom told me before. Mahirap daw talaga kapag matanda ka na at umaasa nalang sa anak. Medyo nasaktan ako sa sinabi niya, perhaps baka may nagagawa na kong mali na hindi ko alam. Then she continued, minsan daw kasi ang matanda maramdamin, papansin, at may mga bagay na gustong gawin pero hindi magawa kasi wala silang sariling income. Lalo na kung may pamilya na ang anak, nakakahiya daw ang umasa.

Habang tumatanda kasi tayo, at nagkakaroon ng sariling isip, pakiramdam natin kaya na natin gawin ang mga bagay na walang pahintulot nila. Na, we have all the rights to say yung mga bagay na nararamdaman natin o naiisip natin without even thinking how they would feel about it. Kasi naiisip natin, it's about time to be heard.

Kung minsan naman, masyado tayong nalilibang sa pagiging adult. Sa paghahabol ng atensyon ni crush. Sa paghahabol ng deadlines sa trabaho. Not knowing na, your mom is waiting for your attention too. She's waiting for her to be asked kung kamusta ang araw niya. Kung kamusta ang pakiramdam niya. Naiisip pa ba natin to?

When I lost my mom, I honestly felt na half of me was gone. Sobra. Sobra yung galit ko sa lahat ng tao. Sa lahat ng bagay. Pati sa sarili ko. I don't even know where to start kahit sabihin mong may pamilya na'ko. Why? Because every night, isa lang ang dasal ko – na sana pahabain ang buhay ng nanay ko kasi gusto ko pang makabawi sa kaniya. Nagsisimula pa lang ako, tapos nawala na siya sa isang iglap? Ang daya di'ba?

When I saw her sa coffin, that was the worst day of my life. Gusto ko siya patayuin. Gusto ko gumising siya. Gusto kong sabihin na mahal na mahal ko siya and I want to hear kung gaano niya ko kamahal, pero it was too late. She's gone. She's breathless. Paano pa di'ba?

I did not write this article because I'm a perfect daughter. I am not. That's why I want to share this to everyone. Lalo na sa mga matatanda na pero may nanay pa sa tabi nila. You don't know how lucky you are na meron kayong natatawag na "mama" at may sasagot sa inyong "bakit anak?".

Don't wait for that moment na, lagi niyo siyang imemessage sa messenger kahit alam mong hindi na siya magrereply. Don't wait for that moment na, magkwekwento ka sa kaniya kahit ang totoo, hangin na lang ang kausap mo. Don't wait for that moment na, sa panaginip mo nalang siya nakikita at sa ala-ala mo nalang siya buhay.

We should always remember na kahit ano pa ang ugali ng nanay natin, 9 months nila tayong dinala sa sinapupunan nila. Nasa hukay ang kanilang isang paa mailabas lang tayo sa mundo. At hindi matatawaran ang pasensiyang ibinigay nila sa atin nung tunuturuan nila tayong maglakad, magsalita, magsulat at kung ano ano pa.

It's about time to change how you treat her.

It's about time to give her all the love in this world, because that is what she deserves.

Do it now. Before it's too late.

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